New Year’s Resolutions For Newly Divorced People

Last year, you set, and kept, the resolution to file for divorce on Divorce Monday.  Now the year is ending, and you are legally single.  Going through a divorce has shown you that, no matter how hard you wish and no matter how much you plan, some things are outside your control.  Not letting your ex-spouse make you angry is an overly ambitious resolution, and so is never feeling guilty about your relationship with your children.  Likewise, all those generic resolutions about quitting junk food are just as hard to keep when you are newly divorced as they are at any other phase of life or marital status.  Some New Year’s resolutions work especially well, however, when a recent divorce has enabled you to make a new start in life.  A Boca Raton divorce lawyer can help you set goals for your life as a newly single person.

Financial and Professional Goals

Divorce is a major source of financial stress for almost everyone, but your divorce may free up mental energy, as well as time and money, to spend on your financial and professional goals.  Now that your frugal self is no longer married to your splurge-happy ex, you can make real progress on paying down your debts.  If your divorce settlement requires you to reenter the workforce after being a stay-at-home parent, you can set goals related to job training, job searches, and professional networking.

Making the Most of Parenting Time

Coparenting with your ex-spouse is one of life’s most challenging experiences, but the optimist in you can see it as an opportunity for time management.  You can clearly divide your week into time when the children are with you and time when the children are with your ex.  You can resolve to go to the gym every Saturday and Sunday morning, since weekends are your ex’s parenting time.  You can also resolve to cook healthy meals on weeknights when the kids are with you, except for Thursday nights, when you go out to a restaurant of your or your children’s choosing.  Perhaps you made New Year’s resolutions related to time management in previous years, but you were unable to keep them because your parenting responsibilities kept you busy day and night; in this regard, the parenting plan is your best friend.

Strengthening Relationships With Family and Friends

Your friends and extended family are a source of companionship and stability during and after divorce.  Resolutions to cultivate relationships with them will pay dividends for generations to come.  Whether you resolve to call your mother every Friday evening after your ex-spouse picks up your kids or to meet up socially with coworkers you have never previously socialized with outside of work, these social connections are to everyone’s benefit.

Contact Schwartz | White About Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce

A South Florida family law attorney can help you get a fair divorce settlement so that you can be on your way to financial and emotional wellbeing.  Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.

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