Losing Friends When Going Through A Divorce

There are many losses that come with a divorce, and the divorcing spouses have to make adjustments to many areas of their lives in order to deal with the divorce. One such area can be dropping mutual friends. People who were mutual friends of both you and your former spouse may present a challenge for you after your divorce as you decide who gets to keep the friends. Unfortunately, you may not always have a choice to keep your friends. As one article in the Huffington Post details, there are many reasons you can lose friends after a divorce.

While this may seem like the farthest concern from your mind in terms of priorities depending on the issues you have in your divorce, friends are important in different ways when you are going through the divorce. They can provide you with moral support as you go through the divorce and help you cope with the loneliness and depression that may come with the end of your marriage.

However, you have to be careful when you are dealing with friends who were mutual friends of both you and your soon to be former spouse. Some friends may feel the need to pick a side, and this could hurt you legally as you interact with them. If you decide to confide in mutual friends about details of your divorce, it can come back to hurt you if the friends share the information with your spouse. Your spouse may also have told unflattering stories about you to mutual friends, and you may feel the need to correct these lies with truthful unflattering stories of your own. This kind of back and forth can create a high conflict situation with your spouse that could only serve to drag out the divorce.

Mutual friends can also serve as a way for your spouse to have access to your social media account even if you have him blocked. You may think that this may not cause a lot of damage if you are not posting things about your divorce; however, posting about new relationships and expensive holidays could have a negative impact on your divorce.

The best way to move forward may be to let go of friendships that will only cause more problems during the divorce process. This may mean losing long term friends, but it can also present an opportunity for you to go out and make new friends, creating a new post-divorce support system. This does not mean that you should discount all your true friends in an effort to start afresh, but you may want to be careful about how much you share about the divorce while it is pending.

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Divorce can be a difficult process that affects you emotionally, physically, and psychologically. You should regularly self-check as you go through the divorce to ensure that you are maintaining your physical and psychological health. Hiring an experienced and knowledgeable divorce attorney to handle your divorce may help you better cope with the other aspects of the process. To find out more about how we can help through your divorce, contact our experienced Boca Raton, Florida divorce attorneys, at the Law Offices of Schwartz l White for legal assistance.

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huffingtonpost.com/terry-gaspard-msw-licsw/why-friendships-take-a-di_b_2546249.html