Recent Blog Posts
Calculating Child Support When Everything Is in Flux
Even the most organized people find the chaos of a pending divorce overwhelming. You are trying to pay the bills for an entire family on one income. You are trying to build a relationship with your new partner’s parents, when, for the time being, your estranged spouse’s parents are still your in-laws. Perhaps you… Read More »
Here Comes Divorce Monday
When you talk to a friend who has recently filed for divorce, you might be surprised that your friend’s tone of voice and body language show relief more than distress. Most likely, your friend agonized over the decision to file for divorce and felt stuck for a long time. Even in uncomplicated cases, divorce… Read More »
Should You Embrace Parallel Parenting Even If the Court Does Not Order It?
It is easy for jealousy, suspicions, and perceived slights to drive you crazy, particularly regarding your relationship with your ex-spouse who broke your heart. Before you fly off the handle at your ex about every little thing, though, you would do well to remember the words of Abdullah ibn al-Muqaffa`, a government official who… Read More »
Where Is the Column for “Adultery” on the Financial Disclosure Forms in Divorce?
If one spouse had an extramarital affair, both spouses will probably think of the affair as the main reason for the divorce, even years later. The divorce court does not usually see it that way, though. The divorce court is only interested in dividing marital assets and debts in the fairest possible way. If… Read More »
Strategic Divorce: A Bittersweet End to a Happy Marriage?
Some people stay married until one of them dies, despite being bitter enemies. Others get divorced, even though they still love each other. In most of these cases, they divorce after realizing that, no matter how strong their love might be, they are incompatible. Whoever said that love conquers all has never seen it… Read More »
How to Set the Stage for a Peaceful Co-Parenting Relationship
When you and your spouse first separate, before your divorce becomes final, is when the bitter feelings are the strongest. Unfortunately, this is also when it is most important to set a precedent for how your co-parenting relationship will go until your children reach adulthood, and even beyond. When your divorce becomes final, the… Read More »
Business Credit Cards and Divorce
Running a business with your spouse can be a source of family togetherness, but the chances are just as good that it will cause conflict or deepen existing conflicts. Most businesses fail within five years of their incorporation, and if you are lucky, your marriage will survive even after your business folds. Sometimes, the… Read More »
A Cautionary Tale About Dating During Divorce
Raise your hand if, whether your ex-spouse has said this to you directly or not, the main reason that your marriage fell apart is that you are addicted to drama. Some people dread dating after divorce. Even when you are young and brimming with self-confidence, the dating scene is brutal; just look at those… Read More »
How Not to Let Your Divorce Ruin the Holidays
If you think that the holidays are stressful when you are a single young adult who is successful, but not successful enough, in your career, or when you are introducing your adorable but sleepless new baby to your judgmental in-laws, try co-parenting with your ex-spouse during the holidays. With a court-ordered parenting plan, you… Read More »
Should You Ask Your Parents to Co-Sign a Mortgage Loan After Your Divorce?
By the time you get to divorce mediation, you and your spouse might not agree on much, but you will still agree that you want your divorce to cause as little stress for your children as possible. Couples who cannot afford it almost always choose to set the terms of their marital settlement agreement… Read More »
